More Thoughts on Being Chosen, Chivalry, and Shoes

Part of me thinks i should call this blog "Sus' Adventures in Dating." Or..."Adventures in Singleness". ha. But i would sooner die. :)

It's funny, ever since i've been apart of this Bible study, every time i get some semblance of a date offer, i hear "not chosen." (that is, if it's a bad date offer.) Anyway, we studied a chapter called Chosen. We learned about how we serve a holy God who chooses us. Right where we are. Exactly who we are. In this very moment. He chose us before the world began. Huh. It's difficult for me to wrap my brain around that. I don't know if i will ever TRULY be able to grasp this concept. But i will spend my life trying to. But it's hard. Especially when you don't feel chosen by earthly characters in your life. "Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved...."(Colossians 3:12). Chosen.

Listen up fellas, we want to be pursued. Fought for. We want to feel like we've been chosen. We long to be known. We want to feel like you care to know who we really are.

This brings me back to chivalry. You've read my blog about the guy only walking me part of the way to my car. This isn't the biggest deal in the world, but it's important to me. We are looking for gentlemen. A gentleman doesn't say "You're an independent woman" as an excuse for breezing past your car door to get to his. (Yes, that happened to me.) A gentleman doesn't make "Jersey Shore" references in attempt to "woo" you. (also happened.) A gentleman doesn't make jokes about rape or other demeaning and degrading things to women. (yep.)

Am i asking for too much? I don't believe so. I'm kind of done settling for crumbs from the table, though. I want the good stuff. So this brings me to shoes. (I don't know....just go with it. ;) ) It's hard being in a single girl's shoes, a dear friend just reminded me. And i have to agree. It is. Which brings me to a great Sex and the City quote. ..

"It's really hard to walk in a single woman's shoes--that's why you sometimes need really special shoes!"

Ha. Well, it's true isn't it?? It's hard being single, so that means we have to soak up the blessings that are in our lives. Right now. Just in this very moment. Not wish this time away. (I'm just as guilty as anyone else about doing this.) We have to appreciate the paths we're on--because we know that we will come out stronger on the other side. We have to recognize the freedom we have and use it to glorify God, if we so choose. This may help to explain my obsession with shoes. I love shoes. And they make me happy. Atleast on the short term. It's hard to put up with the crumbs we settled for so many other times. It's sad we even have to wonder if chivalry REALLY is dead. It's hard to walk in our shoes. So, in the meantime, let's focus on the fact that we are chosen by one holy God, learn all we can in this life, bask in His goodness and in His blessings, proclaim that His timing is perfect---all while wearing good shoes.